Published on October 08, 2025

The Red Flags of Distress: How to Tell When Someone Needs Support

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Every day, people around us may be silently struggling with challenges we can’t see. Whether it’s emotional distress, burnout or mental health concerns, recognizing when someone is at risk can make a world of difference. By learning the warning signs and knowing how to respond, we can help create a supportive environment that encourages individuals to seek the help they need.

Why It Matters

Mental health struggles are far more common than most realize. Stress, depression, anxiety and trauma can affect anyone, regardless of age, background or lifestyle. Sometimes, a caring friend, colleague or family member recognizing the signs is the first step in preventing a crisis.

Common Warning Signs

While every person’s experience is unique, there are some signals that may indicate someone is at risk:

  • Behavioral Changes – Withdrawal from social activities, loss of interest in hobbies or sudden isolation.
  • Emotional Shifts – Increased irritability, frequent mood swings or expressions of hopelessness.
  • Physical Indicators – Noticeable changes in sleep patterns, appetite or personal hygiene.
  • Concerning Language – Talking about feeling like a burden, expressing despair or hinting at self-harm.
  • Decline in Performance – Difficulty concentrating, falling behind at school or work, or a sudden drop in productivity.

How to Respond

Noticing warning signs is just the beginning. Here are some steps to take if you’re concerned about someone:

  1. Reach Out with Care – A simple check-in like, “I’ve noticed you seem down lately—want to talk?” can open the door. Don’t be afraid to ask them directly “Are you thinking about suicide?” It's not an easy question to ask, but it can help start a conversation. Studies show that asking people if they are suicidal does not increase suicidal behavior or thoughts.
  2. Listen Without Judgment – Allow them to share openly without rushing to give advice or minimizing their feelings.
  3. Encourage Professional Support – Suggest resources such as a counselor, therapist or support hotline.
  4. Stay Connected – Regular follow-ups show that you care and that they are not alone.

Building a Supportive Community

Recognizing the warning signs is important but fostering a culture of openness and compassion is equally vital. When people feel safe discussing their struggles, they are more likely to seek help early. Small actions, like normalizing conversations about mental health and checking in on friends, can make a huge difference.

Final Thoughts

Identifying someone at risk isn’t about diagnosing them, it’s about showing empathy and creating a lifeline of support. By paying attention, reaching out, and guiding them toward help, you may play a crucial role in someone’s journey to recovery.

Zara Masood, M.D., specializes in psychiatry at MyMichigan Psychiatry in Kincheloe and Sault Ste. Marie.